PRESENTATIONS TO MUSLIM WOMEN BY MEN
Picture No: 1- Tennakumbura
YMMA -Awarding scholarships to female University Students by Mr. A.M. Reeza
(See
Daily News of 13.6.2000.)
Picture
No:2 – Mr. Nowzer Fowzie handing over prizes to female students.of Al Hidaya
Muslim Mahavidyalaya, Colombo.(See Daily News of 13.6.2000.)
Picture
No:3 – Mr. W.D. Amarasingha, Chairman Insurance Corporation handing over the 1st prize to M.W.
Fathima Zahira of Madeena College, Madawala..(See Daily News of 22.6.2000)
Picture
No: 4 – Ms Elizabeth Moir being introduced to students, (Sunday
Times-2.7.00)(May be OK)
Picture
No: 5 – Deputy Minister S.S.M. Abu Baker receives a Minaret memento from a
student.
(Sunday
Observer – 2.7.00)
These
are Non Mahram Muslim women. They shake
hands with the distributor of the prizes and participate in these functions
with the males. Why cannot these prize distributions be made by some of our
leading Muslim ladies. Should they be exposed in this manner contravening the Islamic
Sharia? What are the Islamic rules relating to this?.
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Ruling on shaking hands with the opposite sex
Is it allowable for a muslim woman to greet a muslim man by
shaking hands?
Praise be to Allaah.
For
a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman (one to whom he is not related)
is haraam and is not permitted at all.
Among the evidence for this is the hadeeth of Ma’qal ibn Yassaar (may Allaah
be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah
 said: ‘If one of you were to be
struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he
were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani;
classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Jaami’, 5045).
There
is no doubt that for a man to touch a non-mahram woman is one of the causes
of fitnah (turmoil, temptation), provocation of desire and committing haraam
deeds. No one should say that their intention is sound or their heart is
clean, because the one who was the purest of heart and the most chaste of
all, the Messenger of Allaah
never touched a non-mahram woman, even when
accepting bay’ah (oath of
allegiance) from women. He did not hold their hands when accepting their bay’ah, as he did with men; their bay’ah was by words only, as was
reported by his wife ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her). She said
that the Messenger of Allaah would test the believing women who
emigrated to him with the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “O Prophet! When believeing women come to
you to give you the bay’ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in
worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit
illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children, that they
will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood (i.e., by making
illegal children belong to their husbands), and that they will not disobey
you in any ma’ruf (Islamic monotheism and all that which Islam ordains), then
accept their bay’ah and ask Allaah to forgive them. Verily Allaah is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Mumtahinah 60:12] ‘Aa’ishah said: “So
whoever of the believing women agreed to these conditions, the Messenger of
Allaah would say to her: ‘I have accepted your bay’ah by words.’ By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of any woman
when accepting their bay’ah; he
accepted their bay’ah by saying ‘I
have accepted your bay’ah on this
basis.’”
(Reported
by al-Bukhaari, 4512; according to another report: he accepted their bay’ah by words… the hand of the
Messenger of Allaah
never touched the hand of any woman except a
woman he owned . Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6674).
Some
Muslims feel too embarrassed to refuse when a woman offers her hand to them.
In addition to mixing with women, some of them claim that they are forced
to shake hands with fellow-students and teachers in schools and universities,
or with colleagues in the workplace, or in business meetings and so on, but
this is not an acceptable excuse. The Muslim should overcome his own
feelings and the promptings of the Shaytaan, and be strong in his faith,
because Allaah
is
not ashamed of the truth. The Muslim could apologize politely and explain
that the reason he does not want to shake hands is not to offend or hurt
anybody’s feelings, but it is because he is following the teachings of his
religion. In most cases this will earn him respect from others. There is no
harm done if they find it strange at first, and it may even be a practical
opportunity for da’wah. And Allaah
knows best. |
Shaking hands with
a non-mahram woman
This is one of the cases
where incorrect social customs have taken precedence over the laws of Allaah, to
such an extent that if you try to talk to people and show them evidence that
this is wrong, they will accuse you of being backward, having a complex, trying
to break family ties, doubting their good intentions, etc. Shaking hands with
female cousins, brothers’ wives and uncles’ wives is now easier than drinking
water in our society, but if we look properly we will understand the
seriousness of the matter.
, to
such an extent that if you try to talk to people and show them evidence that
this is wrong, they will accuse you of being backward, having a complex, trying
to break family ties, doubting their good intentions, etc. Shaking hands with
female cousins, brothers’ wives and uncles’ wives is now easier than drinking
water in our society, but if we look properly we will understand the
seriousness of the matter.
The Prophet
said: “If one of you were to be stabbed in the
head with an iron needle it would be better for him than touching a woman whom
he is not permitted to touch.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani, 20/212; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4921). There is no
doubt that this is an act of zinaa,
because the Prophet said: "The eyes may commit zinaa, the hands may commit zinaa, the feet may commit zinaa and the private parts may commit zinaa." (Reported by Imaam
Ahmad, 1/412; see also Saheeh al-Jaami',
4921).
said: “If one of you were to be stabbed in the
head with an iron needle it would be better for him than touching a woman whom
he is not permitted to touch.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani, 20/212; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4921). There is no
doubt that this is an act of zinaa,
because the Prophet said: "The eyes may commit zinaa, the hands may commit zinaa, the feet may commit zinaa and the private parts may commit zinaa." (Reported by Imaam
Ahmad, 1/412; see also Saheeh al-Jaami',
4921).
Is there anyone more pure in heart than Muhammad ? Yet still he said, “I do not
shake hands with women.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 6/357; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7054, and al-Isaabah, 4/354, Daar al-Kitaab al-’Arabi edition). And he said, "I do not touch the hands of women."
(Reported by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer,
24/342; see also Saheeh al-Jaami',
7054 and al-Isaabah, 4/354, Dar
al-Kutub al-'Arabi edition). ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said:
“No, by Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah never touched the hand of a (non-mahram)
woman. He received bay’ah (pledge of
allegiance) from them by word only.” (Reported by Muslim, 3/489). Let them fear
Allaah, those people
who threaten their pious wives with divorce if they do not shake hands with
their brothers.
? Yet still he said, “I do not
shake hands with women.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 6/357; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7054, and al-Isaabah, 4/354, Daar al-Kitaab al-’Arabi edition). And he said, "I do not touch the hands of women."
(Reported by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer,
24/342; see also Saheeh al-Jaami',
7054 and al-Isaabah, 4/354, Dar
al-Kutub al-'Arabi edition). ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said:
“No, by Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah never touched the hand of a (non-mahram)
woman. He received bay’ah (pledge of
allegiance) from them by word only.” (Reported by Muslim, 3/489). Let them fear
Allaah, those people
who threaten their pious wives with divorce if they do not shake hands with
their brothers.
We should also note that placing a barrier such as a
piece of cloth is of no use; it is still
haraam to shake hands with a non-mahram woman.
Deliberately
looking at a non-mahram woman
Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell
the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and
to protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer
for them. Verily, Allaah is
All-Aware of what they do.” [al-Noor 24:30]
is
All-Aware of what they do.” [al-Noor 24:30]
The
Prophet said: "The adultery of the eyes is by
looking" (i.e. by looking at what Allaah has
forbidden). (Reported by al-Bukhaari, see Fath
al-Baari, 11/26). Looking for a legitimate purpose is exempted from this
rule, such as looking at a woman for marriage purposes, or a doctor examining a
patient for medical reasons, etc. Women are equally forbidden to look at
non-mahram men, as Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
said: "The adultery of the eyes is by
looking" (i.e. by looking at what Allaah has
forbidden). (Reported by al-Bukhaari, see Fath
al-Baari, 11/26). Looking for a legitimate purpose is exempted from this
rule, such as looking at a woman for marriage purposes, or a doctor examining a
patient for medical reasons, etc. Women are equally forbidden to look at
non-mahram men, as Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“And tell the believing
women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and to protect
their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) . . .” [al-Noor 24:31]
Men
are also forbidden to look with desire at a man with a hairless or beautiful
face. Men are forbidden to look at the ‘awrah
of other men, and women are forbidden to look at the ‘awrah of other women. If it is forbidden to look at something, it
is forbidden to touch it, even over clothing. One of the ways in which Shaytaan
deceives people is by making them think that there is nothing wrong with
looking at pictures in magazines or watching movies, because what is seen is
not “real,” even though such images clearly cause so much damage by provoking
desires.
Being alone with a
non-mahram woman
Shaytaan is
always keen to tempt people and make them commit haraam deeds. For this reason,
Allaah warned
us (interpretation of the meaning):
warned
us (interpretation of the meaning):
“O
you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan. And whosoever follows
the footsteps of Shaytaan, then, verily he commands al-fahshaa’ (indecency) and al-munkar
(evil deeds) . . .” [al-Noor 24:21]
Shaytaan
runs through the veins of mankind like blood, and one of the ways in which he
induces people to commit indecent acts is by leading a man to be alone with a
non-mahram woman. Islaam blocks this way by forbidding such conduct, as the
Prophet said: “No man is alone with a (non-mahram)
woman, but Shaytaan will be the third among them.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi,
3/474; see also Mishkaat al-Masaabeeh,
3118). Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that
the Prophet said:
“From this day on, no man should enter upon a woman whose husband is absent
unless there is another man or two with him.” (Reported by Muslim, 4/1711). It
is not permitted for a man to be alone in a house, room or car with a
non-mahram woman, including his brother’s wife or a servant. Similarly a female
patient should not be alone with a doctor, and so on. Many people are careless
about this matter, whether because they trust themselves or for some other
reason, with the results that many commit indecent acts or take the steps that
lead to them, which in turn results in the tragedies of confused lineage and
illegitimate births.
said: “No man is alone with a (non-mahram)
woman, but Shaytaan will be the third among them.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi,
3/474; see also Mishkaat al-Masaabeeh,
3118). Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that
the Prophet said:
“From this day on, no man should enter upon a woman whose husband is absent
unless there is another man or two with him.” (Reported by Muslim, 4/1711). It
is not permitted for a man to be alone in a house, room or car with a
non-mahram woman, including his brother’s wife or a servant. Similarly a female
patient should not be alone with a doctor, and so on. Many people are careless
about this matter, whether because they trust themselves or for some other
reason, with the results that many commit indecent acts or take the steps that
lead to them, which in turn results in the tragedies of confused lineage and
illegitimate births.
A woman wearing perfume when going out or
passing by non-mahram men
This practice is widespread nowadays, despite the
stern warning of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him), who said: “Any woman who
applies perfume and then goes out among the people so that they could smell her
fragrance is a zaaniyah (adulteress).”
(Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 4/418; see also Saheeh
al-Jaami’, 105). Some women are very careless and take the matter too
lightly, especially in front of drivers, shopkeepers, school porters, etc.,
even though the Sharee’ah states very strictly that the woman who wears perfume
must wash herself like a person must wash when in a state of janaanah (i.e., perform ghusl), if she wants to go out to the
mosque. The Prophet
said: “Any
woman who wears perfume then goes out to the mosque, so that the fragrance can
be discerned, her prayers will not be accepted until she performs ghusl like the ghusl to be performed when in a state of janaabah.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 2/444; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2703).
(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him), who said: “Any woman who
applies perfume and then goes out among the people so that they could smell her
fragrance is a zaaniyah (adulteress).”
(Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 4/418; see also Saheeh
al-Jaami’, 105). Some women are very careless and take the matter too
lightly, especially in front of drivers, shopkeepers, school porters, etc.,
even though the Sharee’ah states very strictly that the woman who wears perfume
must wash herself like a person must wash when in a state of janaanah (i.e., perform ghusl), if she wants to go out to the
mosque. The Prophet said: “Any
woman who wears perfume then goes out to the mosque, so that the fragrance can
be discerned, her prayers will not be accepted until she performs ghusl like the ghusl to be performed when in a state of janaabah.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 2/444; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2703).
We complain to Allaah about the bukhoor
and ‘ood (types of incense) used at
weddings and women’s parties before people leave, and the use of
strong-smelling perfumes in market-places, means of transportation and mixed
gatherings in the mosques even during the nights of Ramadaan. Islaam tells us
that women’s perfume should be that which has colour but little smell. We ask
Allaah not to despise us and not to punish righteous men
and women for the deeds of foolish men and women. May He guide us all to the
Straight Path.
about the bukhoor
and ‘ood (types of incense) used at
weddings and women’s parties before people leave, and the use of
strong-smelling perfumes in market-places, means of transportation and mixed
gatherings in the mosques even during the nights of Ramadaan. Islaam tells us
that women’s perfume should be that which has colour but little smell. We ask
Allaah not to despise us and not to punish righteous men
and women for the deeds of foolish men and women. May He guide us all to the
Straight Path.
A woman travelling
without a mahram
The Messenger of Allaah said: “It is not permitted for the woman who
believes in Allaah and the Last Day to travel one day’s distance without the
presence of a mahram.” (Reported by Muslim, 2/977). When a woman travels
without a mahram, this encourages corrupt people to prey on her because of her
weakness; at the very least, her honour will be harmed. This prohibition
applies also to a woman travelling by plane, even if - as is often claimed -
one mahram sees her off at one end and another mahram meets her at the other.
Who is going to sit next to her during the journey? What if technical problems
divert the plane to another airport, or the flight is delayed? What if...?
There are too many stories of things that went wrong. For a person to be
considered a mahram, he must meet four conditions: he should be a Muslim, over
the age of puberty, of sound mind, and male.
said: “It is not permitted for the woman who
believes in Allaah and the Last Day to travel one day’s distance without the
presence of a mahram.” (Reported by Muslim, 2/977). When a woman travels
without a mahram, this encourages corrupt people to prey on her because of her
weakness; at the very least, her honour will be harmed. This prohibition
applies also to a woman travelling by plane, even if - as is often claimed -
one mahram sees her off at one end and another mahram meets her at the other.
Who is going to sit next to her during the journey? What if technical problems
divert the plane to another airport, or the flight is delayed? What if...?
There are too many stories of things that went wrong. For a person to be
considered a mahram, he must meet four conditions: he should be a Muslim, over
the age of puberty, of sound mind, and male.
Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri said: “The Messenger of Allaah said: ‘No woman who believes in Allaah and the
Last Day should travel a distance of three days’ journey or more unless her
father, son, husband, brother or other mahram is with her.” (Reported by
Muslim, 2/977).
said: ‘No woman who believes in Allaah and the
Last Day should travel a distance of three days’ journey or more unless her
father, son, husband, brother or other mahram is with her.” (Reported by
Muslim, 2/977).
Seeing one’s
womenfolk behaving in an immoral fashion and keeping silent
Ibn
‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that the Prophet said: “There are three whom Allaah will deprive of Paradise: the one who
drinks intoxicants, the one who is disobedient to his parents, and the one who
accepts immoral conduct on the part of his family.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad,
2/69; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’,
3047). One of the many examples of this in modern times is men turning a blind
eye to their daughters or wives contacting non-mahram men and chatting to them
in a way that may be described as “romantic,” or accepting one of the women of
his household being alone with a non-mahram man, or allowing them to sit alone
with a driver or other employee, or letting them go out without proper hijaab,
so that everyone may look at them, or bringing home immoral magazines and
movies.
said: “There are three whom Allaah will deprive of Paradise: the one who
drinks intoxicants, the one who is disobedient to his parents, and the one who
accepts immoral conduct on the part of his family.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad,
2/69; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’,
3047). One of the many examples of this in modern times is men turning a blind
eye to their daughters or wives contacting non-mahram men and chatting to them
in a way that may be described as “romantic,” or accepting one of the women of
his household being alone with a non-mahram man, or allowing them to sit alone
with a driver or other employee, or letting them go out without proper hijaab,
so that everyone may look at them, or bringing home immoral magazines and
movies. |
Women wearing
short, tight or see-though clothes
One
of the ways in which our enemies are attacking us in modern times is by means
of the fashions which they design and promote, and which have become popular
among Muslims. These fashions do not cover anything, because they are so short,
transparent or tight; many of them are inappropriate for wearing even in front
of other women or one's mahrams! The Prophet told us that these kinds of clothes would
appear among the women of the last times, as was reported in the hadeeth
narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him): "There are
two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen: people who have whips
like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people; and women who are
dressed but naked, walking with an enticing gait, with their hair looking like
the humps of camels, leaning sideways. They will not enter Paradise or even
smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such-and-such
a distance." (Reported by Muslim, 3/1680). Also included in this type of
clothes are the garments worn by some women which have long slits from the hem,
or pieces cut out here and there; when the wearer sits down, her 'awrah (i.e., everything except the face
and hands) becomes visible, apart from the fact that by wearing such clothes a
woman is resembling the kuffaar and following their fashions and trends of
revealing clothes. We ask Allaah to keep us safe from all that. Another
serious matter as regards clothing is the bad pictures which appear on some
clothes, such as pictures of singers and rock groups, bottles of wine etc.,
pictures of animate beings which are forbidden in Islam, crosses, logos of
immoral clubs and societies, or bad words which do not befit people of honour,
which may be written in foreign languages.
told us that these kinds of clothes would
appear among the women of the last times, as was reported in the hadeeth
narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him): "There are
two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen: people who have whips
like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people; and women who are
dressed but naked, walking with an enticing gait, with their hair looking like
the humps of camels, leaning sideways. They will not enter Paradise or even
smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such-and-such
a distance." (Reported by Muslim, 3/1680). Also included in this type of
clothes are the garments worn by some women which have long slits from the hem,
or pieces cut out here and there; when the wearer sits down, her 'awrah (i.e., everything except the face
and hands) becomes visible, apart from the fact that by wearing such clothes a
woman is resembling the kuffaar and following their fashions and trends of
revealing clothes. We ask Allaah to keep us safe from all that. Another
serious matter as regards clothing is the bad pictures which appear on some
clothes, such as pictures of singers and rock groups, bottles of wine etc.,
pictures of animate beings which are forbidden in Islam, crosses, logos of
immoral clubs and societies, or bad words which do not befit people of honour,
which may be written in foreign languages.
Men
resembling women and women resembling men, in dress, speech and appearance
Part
of the fitrah (natural inclinations
of mankind) is that men should preserve the masculinity which Allaah has created in them, and women should
preserve the femininity which Allaah has created in them. Without this, decent
human life becomes impossible. Men resembling women and vice versa is something
which goes against man's innate nature (fitrah)
and opens the door to corruption and widespread promiscuity. The ruling in
sharee'ah is that when it is stated that the person who does a thing is cursed,
that thing is haraam. Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his
father) reported that the Messenger of Allaah said: "Allaah has cursed the men who make themselves
look like women and the women who make themselves look like men."
(Reported by al-Bukhaari; see al-Fath,
10/332). Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) also
reported that the Messenger of Allaah said: "Allaah has cursed
effeminate men and masculine women." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, see al-Fath, 3\10/333). The resemblance may
be in the way they move, walk and speak.
has created in them, and women should
preserve the femininity which Allaah has created in them. Without this, decent
human life becomes impossible. Men resembling women and vice versa is something
which goes against man's innate nature (fitrah)
and opens the door to corruption and widespread promiscuity. The ruling in
sharee'ah is that when it is stated that the person who does a thing is cursed,
that thing is haraam. Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his
father) reported that the Messenger of Allaah said: "Allaah has cursed the men who make themselves
look like women and the women who make themselves look like men."
(Reported by al-Bukhaari; see al-Fath,
10/332). Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) also
reported that the Messenger of Allaah said: "Allaah has cursed
effeminate men and masculine women." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, see al-Fath, 3\10/333). The resemblance may
be in the way they move, walk and speak.
Similarly,
the two sexes are not permitted to resemble one another in dress or by wearing
anything that is specifically for the other sex. So a man is not permitted
to wear necklaces, bracelets, anklets or earrings, etc., as is widespread among
hippies and the like. Women are not permitted to wear things that are
specifically for men, like the thawb
(long garment worn by men in Arab countries), shirts, etc.; whatever she wears
should be different in style, details and colour. The evidence that the two
sexes should not resemble one another in dress is found in the hadeeth narrated
by Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him): "Allaah has cursed the man who wears women's
clothes and the woman who wear men's clothes." (Reported by Abu Dawud,
4/355; see also Saheeh al-Jaami',
5071).
has cursed the man who wears women's
clothes and the woman who wear men's clothes." (Reported by Abu Dawud,
4/355; see also Saheeh al-Jaami',
5071).
Wearing
wigs and hairpieces, whether made from natural or artificial hair, for men and
women
Asmaa'
bint Abi Bakr said: "A woman came to the Prophet ( and said, 'O Messenger of Allaah, I
have a daughter who is going to be married; she had a fever and lost much of
her hair - can I give attach false hair to her head?' He said: 'Allaah has cursed the one who attaches
false hair and the one who has this done.'" (Reported by Muslim,
3/1676). Jaabir ibn 'Abdullaah said: "The Prophet issued strict instructions that no woman
should add anything to her head." (Reported by Muslim, 3/1679).
and said, 'O Messenger of Allaah, I
have a daughter who is going to be married; she had a fever and lost much of
her hair - can I give attach false hair to her head?' He said: 'Allaah has cursed the one who attaches
false hair and the one who has this done.'" (Reported by Muslim,
3/1676). Jaabir ibn 'Abdullaah said: "The Prophet issued strict instructions that no woman
should add anything to her head." (Reported by Muslim, 3/1679).
Examples
of this include the things known nowadays as wigs and hair extensions, and the
many evil things with which salons are crowded. Also included are the
artificial wigs worn by some actors and actresses who have no morals.
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